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Wednesday, March 23, 2011
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Love is a powerful word. When used it means you are in awe of that person. Yes there are many different types of love. You dont love your partner the same way you love you rmother. You love both but not the same way. There has been cases of domestic violence that the victim allows the beating to happen over and over and they say they love them. So love can also cuase harm as you can deeply in love and dependable of that person for you not to realize they dont love. I am pretty sure you have all heard i love you to death do us apart well some times that can interpretrative the wrong way. Obsession is one case of that, one can be in love with someone but that someone may nit feel the same way this can lead to jealousy towards people around that person and it can get ugly. we have seen plenty of movies in wich this happens. and it ends up with "if i cant have her or he then no one will" and it goes on to end with them killing that person they say they love over jealousy and love.
What is love? According to the dictionary love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. Or a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. According to Elaine Hatfield passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection and will usually last about six to thirty months. That’s normally the way it goes, you meet someone, you’re attracted to them first physically then you get to know them, and the rest falls into place. However no one anticipates breaking up with someone at the start at the relationship, but let’s face it...staying with someone because you think it will work out, or because you hear you guys fit well together is just plain self hatred and the conformity that society is once hanging telling us what to do, how to do it, and who to date. Do we love the way we want because we want, or are this form a prepackaged form of manipulation of the system? Personally I think we do love the way we want, I mean you watch Television you read books about love and you kind of get a sense as to what you may want your next relationship to be like but in my opinion when you’re dating someone hopefully you understand that you’re not going to find your “Edward” from the twilight saga, or even a friendly wolf like “Jacob” but a good guy who you shouldn’t compare to fictional characters. Love is a controversial topic because many people have different views and on it, but it’s simply really, love is a feeling you get when you care immensely about someone. Do I think love can cause someone to harm another person? Yes, Love is crazy; love is kind, love means slowly losing your mind.
What is love? Majority of the world wants to be in love, but no one really know what love is. There is only a conception of what love is. My conception of love or “Eros” is when two people have a strong emotional bond towards each other. I mean bond in the sense that you nor that other can’t seem to have with no one else in that time frame. Almost similar to the ones one would have with their friends and family but far more passionate. Some people can have that bond a bit deeper than their significant other which would lead to jealousy. While others bond seems to weaken and that’s when infidelity starts. In regards to violent relationship I don’t think that it was really Eros love. In my opinion if one is really in Eros love the concept of laying your hands on that person wouldn’t cross your mind. Love can go farther than romantic love. Love is a complex subject to understand.
What is love? Difficult question to answer, no one has been able to give a precise meaning to such significant word. Love, a feeling, a desire, a longing, so there are so many words that we have tried to use to describe something. Perhaps love is bigger than just your desires. It what makes you want to give all that is you without reserving any to yourself. Love does not want to hurt you but save you. You may think you know what love is, but the truth is you don't. Love is best defined in 1 Corinthians 13, and I quote, "Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud or rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered. It doesn't keep a record of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in truth but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful and trusting. Love never fails." Love is something that is shared. It grows further and it multiples. Love means sacrifice, forgive, understand, trust, hope, and respect. However, it is not pity or simple raging of hormones. Love is not a lie just to benefit one's selfishness. The word love will always been one of the greatest mysteries in the world. It is an unfathomable abyss of emotions that would always be undefined by greatest philosophers that ever walked the earth. Love remains a gift that only people who knows how to love could feel its real beauty and its true mystery.
Love is an interesting topic to discuss these days because no one really knows what it truly means. We all think love is what is documented in movies; a flutter in one’s stomach or the infamous “love at first sight” saying. But no one can really describe this feeling. All we know is we don’t want to lose that special someone. But what happens when you do lose them? Was that love a lie? Did you make up everything you said to that person? What ever happened to meeting someone casually and getting to know them (which should take months) before deciding if they love that individual or not (in a matter of days)? Is love something that’s developed in days, or does it take years for those feelings to arise? If it’s supposed to take years, then does that mean that the love that was developed in days is not true love? What is true love? Why is there a difference in love? There are so many questions about this topic. Love is something that’s produced by the mind. What does one mean when they say their “heart is broken”? To say that one’s heart is broken is only a mental thing. It just means one was really attached to an individual and they didn’t expect the sudden disagreement resulted in being alone. But that’s beside the point here, love is…well, it’s hard to describe. It for sure isn’t a physical action. To physically abuse or even verbally abuse someone is not love. One must show compassion to the individual in which they care about. They must be there for them at all times and never disappoint. Love is hard to describe because I feel like it is basically something that’s been advertised by the media. It’s heard in songs and movies and we are conditioned to believe that what we hear is what we are supposed to feel. How do I know I love someone? I can only go off of what I’ve heard and seen throughout my years of existence, but does that mean my feelings are correct? Why must there be a title to how one feels? Why can't two people just care for one another unconditionally? So many questions, so little answers...
Love is the one emotion that has everybody puzzled. There are many myths surrounds this feeling and comes in many diverse aspects. It sometimes makes us do irrational things. Love makes the world go round. It is to be as one of our strongest driving force. Well, everyone has their own way of defining it due to its varieties. Love is what one believes it to be. Most people claimed that they are truly in love with somebody and hurt the person. It is an example of how we are to mold ourselves and ready to return that love in such an elevated level. Rarely is someone so perfect if ever. We make a lot of stupid mistakes when we claimed that love is protect, trust and hope. Can somebody think how often you hurt other people? Where is the love? Is it simply human instinct? At this point it becomes problematical to understand what love really means and also get the most out of it.
Ha! Love is like a Jack in the box toy. You move the handle and this music plays. It can excite you or terrify you. You expect for this creepy clown to pop out, but that is not always the case. Sometimes a bear or some other random thing will spring forth, (I once had a monkey come out). The feeling you get of surprise or fear, is immediate for some. Others are used to the toy and have prepared themselves for the attack, yet that is not to say they will never be surprise by it again. It's funny because so many people build themselves up for that Jack to pop out, but it does not always happen. The top can get jammed and you have to fix around the edges and start the process over. At some point, the toy can be totally out of order and you have no choice but to move onto another.
To me, love is like that. I find myself searching for the jack in the box in Target, (and not in the metaphorical way, of finding someone). I feel myself smiling because it is fun. It creeps me the hell out and it hardly ever fails to scare me. But it makes it that much more exciting. The thrill of trying to predict when the music will stop playing and when the doll springs out. I never have the good timing with it, but I try anyways. In fact, I find myself shaken, taking pauses, feeling the overwhelming sensation as I prepare to take what comes. It's so simple yet...It never fails to bring a new experience each round.
The system plays a big role on how people display their love for one another, yet I can’t help feel it’s more of a nature vs. nurture when it comes to expressing love. For the fact of us being human is a good reason to love one another, on the other hand the way we display love has to deal with how we were raised. Because some people are brought up around a very loving family that showcased love for one another, on the contrary family is always fighting and never displays positive physical expressions. I’m not sure if we can ever love and respect one another because desire so much more powerful then respect and nothing is really gain in the end when a person is respected, however a desire is instantly fulfilled when it is gain and that is what makes it so hard for one to treat respect equally with desire.
Some say love is just a four letter word. Maybe it is maybe it’s not; due to the fact it’s impossible to actually measure love on a scale. It differs for everyone no matter where you land on the board. Everyone defines their love individually, catering to their needs and desires. Love is in ways formed and shaped by what we see on TV and how we see others act with one another and we assume that they are in love. Love is very tricky because a lot of folks settle and put up with a lot of issues that they would otherwise up and leave, but they stay because they believe they’re in love. It is not impossible to love and respect one another, but it’s surely hard because no one has the same feelings when they are in love. Yes it may be called love, but you have to take in consideration that you didn’t fall in love at the same time, you might not love the same exact thing your significant lover loves about you. It’s a strong desire that when not reciprocated back it can lead to uncertainty, heartbreak, jealousy and etc. -Jonas Metayer
When someone is asked what love is? One can immediately think of something or someone they have had strong feelings for. Love can be more than just an emotion triggered by chemical reactions; it can also be a desire or an act of selfishness. You can see all of these descriptions when we look at the marriage of an old happily married couple. They first must have fallen in love with strong intimacy, commitment and passion; which are all a sign of emotional love. Then they must have desired the company of each other for the rest of their lives while they self-satisfy their fear of being alone for their rest of their lives. The love from the old couple has a mutual consensus of love and respect for each other. Since they have feelings for each other and love themselves, they must respect each other. They want to make his/her partner happy and the only way this can happy is to treat each other with respect. For example, if the old man knows that burping in front of his wife makes her feel uncomfortable; then he will not purposely burp in front of her. Thus, it is possible to love and respect one another. I do believe that we humans love the way want because we want and because we are biological programmed. By looking at the human anatomy we can see that humans are programmed to find a special person to procreate and maybe spend the rest of their lives together. We, humans, secret pheromones to attract the other sex. We adapt to the current existing environment to ensure that me acquire a mate. For example, we go to the gym to obtain a desirable body by the woman or we wear attractive and expensive materials. We have sex organs to reproduce with our mates. The fact that we decide to stay with our parents come from our own desires. We “fall in love” and decide to commit to a relationship with our other half “until death does a part.” The fact that we choose to maintain a commitment is because we want to. The truth is that no one in this planet knows what love truly is. Whether is a human desire or a human emotion. What we know is that love exists and that we can understand what love is by looking at current love experiences. Social scientists are ably to hypothesis the meaning of love, but we will never know what its true meaning is.
You can only love yourself before you love another. You cannot have expectations to for another to make you happy when you need to be happy with yourself first and that goes with "completing oneself," no else can complete you, only you can, even if you feel that empty space you might feel from time to time from being alone, it is just the feeling of desiring to be loved by and exterior force, which all feels that way one or the other. That feeling is just stronger in others, and that is what causes us to seek a companion because being human, it is within our natural build that we seek companionship from a mate. To love is differentiated and understood differently by every person, but when it should be two individuals understanding each other. There are numerous of cases where violence is resulted from love, because love is a powerful feeling that must be understood through understanding the self, to learn to be without first and then to be with. Love or like with another, should be private and personal to gain a psychological continuity that cannot be established by default. That I believe, is something hard to find but is obtainable. Tolerance goes a big part as well, a serious love relationship isn't all about the love but the chemical attraction and tolerance for one another, to tolerate each other's mannerisms. Love is seeing the beauty of someone through little nooks and crannies of the significant other's mind, body, and soul, where one might reconsider those features considered "beauty." Love is something that should never take a person and leave him or her empty, because if it does, than you need to back out and take a look at the situation, but that is easily said and done obviously. One may never give too much or too little, both must always give in moderation to balance the chemicals between another, despite how hard it may seem. This is my small take on love and what I feel, I can type for hours on this topic, sure everyone can.
Love is such a strong overrated word because love can sometimes is said but not meant. However I believe the saying that says you don't how much you love someone until you lose. I'm saying this from experience, I thought I had feelings for this girl but I didnt think I loved her until we broke up our sophomore year in high school and been dating for two years prior to that. Love can be and is a magnificent feeling when the feeling is shared both ways, I never found out if she really loved me cause we never spoke since we broke up. Love acts in mysterious ways it can either lead to a healthy relationship where the two individuals share the feeling or it can lead to jealously in some cases and could lead to one of the individuals getting hurt in the case of Rihanna and Chris Brown were Rihanna was hurt and Chris Brown was never the same. All I have to say is becareful who you declare love to, just make sure you love that person with good intentions.
First and foremost I agree that now-a-days love is more of a market thing than a sentimental thing. Often it is as the post states what's in it for me? Since there is a monetary part attached to the relationship. More so, why is it that people give material things to each other every month to commemorate that they are together? Why not just some time together, why is it such a celebration that they made it another month together? Yes I do agree that we must celebrate every day of our lives as if it were the last one, but by doing this of giving each other material things each “month-aversary” is just giving in to the commercial part of what is now supposedly love. Also as it is often the case people “fall in love” for the person they feel sexually attached too. More often than not I have heard that someone somewhat liked a person and the sexual desire was very present and it was after confirming that the sexual relations between the couple were “good” then was that supposedly love came. I am not saying that love doesn’t exist but I am saying it is very egoist and now extremely commercial. Even more so is as it states the question of this post, a matter of ownership. What is that of that is my man, or my woman, or she/he is mine, back off. Since when do we belong to someone else? Since when does being in love mean stopping being a free individual and become owned by others? We all fall for the commercialized form of love and think of it as our own. It is also true that love not only exists between couples but also friends and family. Is this love as egoist and commercial as the one we supposedly feel for our significant other? Personally, there is something pure about family and friend love, but that is just me. A true unconditional love. Others may argue that this is not the case but in friendship you always look for the how is this person convenient for me? Honestly, I do not think that way and I don’t need a set date each month to show my friends or family I love them.
“Love, it is real, not just in poetry and stories, it is truth, and it will follow you” sings Conor Oberst in one of his songs.
Love, throughout the years I have learned, is the only way that I can be happy. I currently have a 4.0 gpa, I graduated top 1% from my high school, and I scored an 800 on my SAT subject test; do any of those things make me happy? Not really. What makes me happy is my interactions with other people, the connections I make, and the love that I feel for others and for things I like doing. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy being owner of those “statistics,” but it is not what makes me happy; having good grades is only a pathway to happiness in the sense that it will allow me to go to a good university and use the knowledge and experiences to help others. Love for something or someone is the only way to happiness.
Love is something complicated that has developed either as means of a survival strategy or is simply the side effect of complex brain processes. This “genetic love” is the attachment that we feel towards other people or things. On the other hand, the romantic love between two people or between a husband and a wife is human-made; it is simply a concept that has developed as part of our society and culture rather than a direct result of evolution or brain functions (teenagers a specially inclined to feel this kind of love).
To be sincere, the world would be a much better place if people would realize the beauty and power of love. The attachment, the care, and the consideration, which are side effects of love, would prevent wars, drive movements, and better our society and global community.
“All we need is love… love… love; love is all we need…” sang the Beatles in 1967. However, what it is love? Most of the songs are about love. That is for not saying all, and most of them talk about sacrifice; sometimes they even mention the phrase, “I gave you everything.” What is everything? I believe this everything is something emotional, for someone else it might be something physical, or economical. I always remember when Valentine’s Day approaches, or holidays are near. The typical commercial of the girl looking at the enormous ring, or the big diamonds commercials are all over the TV. It is really sad how we are trying to buy and sell love as if we were wholesalers. We think that the more we give the more we will receive, but love is much more complicated than giving expensive gives and in order to receive sex. When we follow this trend, we are falling into a deep hole. Nevertheless, I am not saying that buying rings or diamonds is bad, in fact is good, it might rip your pocket. It is nice to give something nice to the person we love; however, is it necessary? I do not believe that gifts are necessary condition for love. People tend to seek for love, but I remember the song “Chao Lola” from one of my favorite Ecuadorian soloist, Juan Fernando Velazco, he says “el amor no es algo que se busca en otro.” (Love is nothing that you find in someone else). Love most be found within ourselves. First we love ourselves, so that love can be reflected by others.
Everyone has heard the saying that love is more than just a four letter word. By definition, the word love is defined as “a profoundly tender, strong positive emotion of regard, passionate affection and a warm personal attachment to another person”. Affection, devotion, passion, desire, warmth, respect and loyalty are all ways to define love. In today's culture no one really knows the real meaning of love. Unconditional love. Most people use "love" as a placebo to attract our attention to anything, whether material or more intangible goods.Due to this, love leads to manipulation, hatred, abuse, and even makes us go crazy. Love has been expressed since the beginning of time; since Adam and Eve. Love is a broad emotion that can be powerful and demanding, but also rewarding and pleasurable. For some people, love is complete devotion and endless adoration. For others, it is a temporary feeling that will disappear in time. For some people, it is a fairy-tale; while for others it is a dream come true. However, love is not a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. So many legends surround this emotion, originating from the goddess Athena and Helen of Troy to Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet. Love is not an emotion to be abused or a word to be said without true meaning.
For everyone in Western society we are fed this notion that love is about passion, sharing, caring and happiness with stars and hearts around it. Love doesn't last forever in terms of romance (which is marketed to us). What happens to these passionate emotions after the honeymoon stage is over? what happens to all the material objects we receive in the name of love? Do we play his game of romance to to fulfill something biological?
Emotional and physical attachment throughout our development in a way feeds our desire to seek "love". There's an obvious insecurity. There is an aspect a person feels is missing and it needs to be fulfilled. Take abusive relationships. Chris Brown was abused as a child, he was nurtured in that environment and when he gets angry, he loses control. Another example, there's was an E! True Hollywood Story about Rapper's Wives and Liza Rios (the widow of Big Punisher) told her story about abuse. She claimed that Big Punisher, because he had no control over anything close to him in his life- he needed something to control. Although she stuck with him and showed tolerance for his actions, he showed very little respect towards her. People who are in possessive and abusive relationships seem to be caught in the trap of this eros + ludos style of love. They're fulfilling one's desire for control.
No wonder why the number one advice is to "love yourself before loving others".
There's so much more to the subject of love. There's many questions and many answers. I've always felt that love should be one of mutual respect, trust and plenty of laughs and hugs. That's just one perspective out of many.
Love is such a strong overrated word because love can sometimes is said but not meant. However I believe the saying that says you don't how much you love someone until you lose them. I'm saying this from experience, I thought I had feelings for this girl but I didn't think I loved her until we broke up our sophmore year in high school and been dating for two years prior to that. Love can be and is a magnificent feeling when the feeling is shared both ways, I never found out if she loved me cause we never spoke since we broke up. Love acts in mysterious ways it can either lead to a healthy relationship where the two individuals share the feeling or it can lead to jealously in some cases and could lead to one of the individuals getting hurt in the case of Rihanna and Chris Brown were Rihanna got hurtand Chris Brown was never the same person. All I have to say is becareful who you declare love to, just make sure you love that person with good intentions
Love is a decision that has to be made; it is not something we feel all of a sudden. We have to decide to put the other person first before yourself. Society likes to classify love as an emotion where we can just say “I love you” to just about anybody but do we really mean it. Love is sometimes used as one big marketing strategy to sell diamonds, flowers and chocolate. It’s not something we can put in a box and manipulate it to fulfill our needs. Even thought it may seem like we can, the true intentions always arise and could destroy what you were working towards.
Sorry professor I submitted this blog under the name of Nicholas cause I was at work and forgot my username and password sorry everybody and professor that was me too in the anominous if you read the two blogs
Love is perceived in many different ways, all depending on the "prescription" of your glasses. As children we are taught gender roles and what our place in society is depending on our sex. Young girls are meant to grow up to be ladies and homemakers, while the young boys are taught that they are the providers and head of the household. In many fairy tales there is always a beautiful young woman in distress waiting on her "true love" to come to her rescue and whisk her away to a faraway land so they can live happily ever. These images that are implanted in our young vulnerable minds are what set the benchmark in what we perceive as love and as we grow our perception of "love" is obscured and turned into a taboo. Suddenly, three simple words become so twisted that we are afraid to say them or even to believe such a thing exist. We live and breath love yet we refuse to admit we love or have once loved. I believe love is like water, it comes packaged in different shapes and sizes and just like water, it is essential for life. Without love or even passion, which I hold to be one and the same, we cannot exist. We experience love in every moment of life even in the most smallest of things. Love comes in varies disguises and many times we don't recognize it. We feel love in different intensities, from the way we love our moms, dads, and grandmas to the way we love the sound of hot water pouring from a tea kettle. Love is an appreciation and recognition of somethings intrinsic value to you. It might not always be the most intense fairy tale love we are brainwashed with but nonetheless it still lingers theres.
The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes. from pleasure to intense attraction. This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love difficult to define, even compare to other emotional states. To me, Love does not involve the emotions of anger, jealousy, and lust. It is way more patient and understanding about one's needs. It does not hate nor strike down at each other. It trusts and confides in others. It finds comfort in the heart of the beholder.It is really a never ending concept that gives all it has.-Nadya D.
Honestly I have no idea what love is. I guess I agree with some of the theories in the blog. In my opinion love is something psychological hedonism individuals use to be happy. In the sense they need it so they use all in their power to get it for their own personal happiness. Love kind of selfish if you ask me. Being in love with someone for your own personal satisfaction is not right. Maybe we love for the wrong reasons, or maybe like me we really don’t know what it is. Whatever the reason is people shouldn’t suffer, or die because of this feeling called love. Reynel Hernandez
26 comments:
Love is a powerful word. When used it means you are in awe of that person. Yes there are many different types of love. You dont love your partner the same way you love you rmother. You love both but not the same way. There has been cases of domestic violence that the victim allows the beating to happen over and over and they say they love them. So love can also cuase harm as you can deeply in love and dependable of that person for you not to realize they dont love. I am pretty sure you have all heard i love you to death do us apart well some times that can interpretrative the wrong way. Obsession is one case of that, one can be in love with someone but that someone may nit feel the same way this can lead to jealousy towards people around that person and it can get ugly. we have seen plenty of movies in wich this happens. and it ends up with "if i cant have her or he then no one will" and it goes on to end with them killing that person they say they love over jealousy and love.
What is love? According to the dictionary love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. Or a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. According to Elaine Hatfield passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection and will usually last about six to thirty months. That’s normally the way it goes, you meet someone, you’re attracted to them first physically then you get to know them, and the rest falls into place. However no one anticipates breaking up with someone at the start at the relationship, but let’s face it...staying with someone because you think it will work out, or because you hear you guys fit well together is just plain self hatred and the conformity that society is once hanging telling us what to do, how to do it, and who to date. Do we love the way we want because we want, or are this form a prepackaged form of manipulation of the system? Personally I think we do love the way we want, I mean you watch Television you read books about love and you kind of get a sense as to what you may want your next relationship to be like but in my opinion when you’re dating someone hopefully you understand that you’re not going to find your “Edward” from the twilight saga, or even a friendly wolf like “Jacob” but a good guy who you shouldn’t compare to fictional characters. Love is a controversial topic because many people have different views and on it, but it’s simply really, love is a feeling you get when you care immensely about someone. Do I think love can cause someone to harm another person? Yes, Love is crazy; love is kind, love means slowly losing your mind.
What is love? Majority of the world wants to be in love, but no one really know what love is. There is only a conception of what love is. My conception of love or “Eros” is when two people have a strong emotional bond towards each other. I mean bond in the sense that you nor that other can’t seem to have with no one else in that time frame. Almost similar to the ones one would have with their friends and family but far more passionate. Some people can have that bond a bit deeper than their significant other which would lead to jealousy. While others bond seems to weaken and that’s when infidelity starts. In regards to violent relationship I don’t think that it was really Eros love. In my opinion if one is really in Eros love the concept of laying your hands on that person wouldn’t cross your mind. Love can go farther than romantic love. Love is a complex subject to understand.
What is love? Difficult question to answer, no one has been able to give a precise meaning to such significant word. Love, a feeling, a desire, a longing, so there are so many words that we have tried to use to describe something. Perhaps love is bigger than just your desires. It what makes you want to give all that is you without reserving any to yourself. Love does not want to hurt you but save you. You may think you know what love is, but the truth is you don't. Love is best defined in 1 Corinthians 13, and I quote, "Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud or rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered. It doesn't keep a record of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in truth but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful and trusting. Love never fails." Love is something that is shared. It grows further and it multiples. Love means sacrifice, forgive, understand, trust, hope, and respect. However, it is not pity or simple raging of hormones. Love is not a lie just to benefit one's selfishness. The word love will always been one of the greatest mysteries in the world. It is an unfathomable abyss of emotions that would always be undefined by greatest philosophers that ever walked the earth. Love remains a gift that only people who knows how to love could feel its real beauty and its true mystery.
Love is an interesting topic to discuss these days because no one really knows what it truly means. We all think love is what is documented in movies; a flutter in one’s stomach or the infamous “love at first sight” saying. But no one can really describe this feeling. All we know is we don’t want to lose that special someone. But what happens when you do lose them? Was that love a lie? Did you make up everything you said to that person? What ever happened to meeting someone casually and getting to know them (which should take months) before deciding if they love that individual or not (in a matter of days)? Is love something that’s developed in days, or does it take years for those feelings to arise? If it’s supposed to take years, then does that mean that the love that was developed in days is not true love? What is true love? Why is there a difference in love? There are so many questions about this topic. Love is something that’s produced by the mind. What does one mean when they say their “heart is broken”? To say that one’s heart is broken is only a mental thing. It just means one was really attached to an individual and they didn’t expect the sudden disagreement resulted in being alone. But that’s beside the point here, love is…well, it’s hard to describe. It for sure isn’t a physical action. To physically abuse or even verbally abuse someone is not love. One must show compassion to the individual in which they care about. They must be there for them at all times and never disappoint. Love is hard to describe because I feel like it is basically something that’s been advertised by the media. It’s heard in songs and movies and we are conditioned to believe that what we hear is what we are supposed to feel. How do I know I love someone? I can only go off of what I’ve heard and seen throughout my years of existence, but does that mean my feelings are correct? Why must there be a title to how one feels? Why can't two people just care for one another unconditionally? So many questions, so little answers...
Love is the one emotion that has everybody puzzled. There are many myths surrounds this feeling and comes in many diverse aspects. It sometimes makes us do irrational things. Love makes the world go round. It is to be as one of our strongest driving force. Well, everyone has their own way of defining it due to its varieties. Love is what one believes it to be. Most people claimed that they are truly in love with somebody and hurt the person. It is an example of how we are to mold ourselves and ready to return that love in such an elevated level. Rarely is someone so perfect if ever. We make a lot of stupid mistakes when we claimed that love is protect, trust and hope. Can somebody think how often you hurt other people? Where is the love? Is it simply human instinct? At this point it becomes problematical to understand what love really means and also get the most out of it.
Ha! Love is like a Jack in the box toy. You move the handle and this music plays. It can excite you or terrify you. You expect for this creepy clown to pop out, but that is not always the case. Sometimes a bear or some other random thing will spring forth, (I once had a monkey come out). The feeling you get of surprise or fear, is immediate for some. Others are used to the toy and have prepared themselves for the attack, yet that is not to say they will never be surprise by it again.
It's funny because so many people build themselves up for that Jack to pop out, but it does not always happen. The top can get jammed and you have to fix around the edges and start the process over. At some point, the toy can be totally out of order and you have no choice but to move onto another.
To me, love is like that.
I find myself searching for the jack in the box in Target, (and not in the metaphorical way, of finding someone). I feel myself smiling because it is fun. It creeps me the hell out and it hardly ever fails to scare me. But it makes it that much more exciting. The thrill of trying to predict when the music will stop playing and when the doll springs out. I never have the good timing with it, but I try anyways. In fact, I find myself shaken, taking pauses, feeling the overwhelming sensation as I prepare to take what comes. It's so simple yet...It never fails to bring a new experience each round.
--Xiomara Ingles
The system plays a big role on how people display their love for one another, yet I can’t help feel it’s more of a nature vs. nurture when it comes to expressing love. For the fact of us being human is a good reason to love one another, on the other hand the way we display love has to deal with how we were raised. Because some people are brought up around a very loving family that showcased love for one another, on the contrary family is always fighting and never displays positive physical expressions. I’m not sure if we can ever love and respect one another because desire so much more powerful then respect and nothing is really gain in the end when a person is respected, however a desire is instantly fulfilled when it is gain and that is what makes it so hard for one to treat respect equally with desire.
-Kenny Philistin
Some say love is just a four letter word. Maybe it is maybe it’s not; due to the fact it’s impossible to actually measure love on a scale. It differs for everyone no matter where you land on the board. Everyone defines their love individually, catering to their needs and desires. Love is in ways formed and shaped by what we see on TV and how we see others act with one another and we assume that they are in love. Love is very tricky because a lot of folks settle and put up with a lot of issues that they would otherwise up and leave, but they stay because they believe they’re in love. It is not impossible to love and respect one another, but it’s surely hard because no one has the same feelings when they are in love. Yes it may be called love, but you have to take in consideration that you didn’t fall in love at the same time, you might not love the same exact thing your significant lover loves about you. It’s a strong desire that when not reciprocated back it can lead to uncertainty, heartbreak, jealousy and etc.
-Jonas Metayer
When someone is asked what love is? One can immediately think of something or someone they have had strong feelings for. Love can be more than just an emotion triggered by chemical reactions; it can also be a desire or an act of selfishness. You can see all of these descriptions when we look at the marriage of an old happily married couple. They first must have fallen in love with strong intimacy, commitment and passion; which are all a sign of emotional love. Then they must have desired the company of each other for the rest of their lives while they self-satisfy their fear of being alone for their rest of their lives. The love from the old couple has a mutual consensus of love and respect for each other. Since they have feelings for each other and love themselves, they must respect each other. They want to make his/her partner happy and the only way this can happy is to treat each other with respect. For example, if the old man knows that burping in front of his wife makes her feel uncomfortable; then he will not purposely burp in front of her. Thus, it is possible to love and respect one another.
I do believe that we humans love the way want because we want and because we are biological programmed. By looking at the human anatomy we can see that humans are programmed to find a special person to procreate and maybe spend the rest of their lives together. We, humans, secret pheromones to attract the other sex. We adapt to the current existing environment to ensure that me acquire a mate. For example, we go to the gym to obtain a desirable body by the woman or we wear attractive and expensive materials. We have sex organs to reproduce with our mates. The fact that we decide to stay with our parents come from our own desires. We “fall in love” and decide to commit to a relationship with our other half “until death does a part.” The fact that we choose to maintain a commitment is because we want to.
The truth is that no one in this planet knows what love truly is. Whether is a human desire or a human emotion. What we know is that love exists and that we can understand what love is by looking at current love experiences. Social scientists are ably to hypothesis the meaning of love, but we will never know what its true meaning is.
You can only love yourself before you love another. You cannot have expectations to for another to make you happy when you need to be happy with yourself first and that goes with "completing oneself," no else can complete you, only you can, even if you feel that empty space you might feel from time to time from being alone, it is just the feeling of desiring to be loved by and exterior force, which all feels that way one or the other. That feeling is just stronger in others, and that is what causes us to seek a companion because being human, it is within our natural build that we seek companionship from a mate. To love is differentiated and understood differently by every person, but when it should be two individuals understanding each other. There are numerous of cases where violence is resulted from love, because love is a powerful feeling that must be understood through understanding the self, to learn to be without first and then to be with. Love or like with another, should be private and personal to gain a psychological continuity that cannot be established by default. That I believe, is something hard to find but is obtainable. Tolerance goes a big part as well, a serious love relationship isn't all about the love but the chemical attraction and tolerance for one another, to tolerate each other's mannerisms. Love is seeing the beauty of someone through little nooks and crannies of the significant other's mind, body, and soul, where one might reconsider those features considered "beauty." Love is something that should never take a person and leave him or her empty, because if it does, than you need to back out and take a look at the situation, but that is easily said and done obviously. One may never give too much or too little, both must always give in moderation to balance the chemicals between another, despite how hard it may seem. This is my small take on love and what I feel, I can type for hours on this topic, sure everyone can.
Love is such a strong overrated word because love can sometimes is said but not meant. However I believe the saying that says you don't how much you love someone until you lose. I'm saying this from experience, I thought I had feelings for this girl but I didnt think I loved her until we broke up our sophomore year in high school and been dating for two years prior to that. Love can be and is a magnificent feeling when the feeling is shared both ways, I never found out if she really loved me cause we never spoke since we broke up. Love acts in mysterious ways it can either lead to a healthy relationship where the two individuals share the feeling or it can lead to jealously in some cases and could lead to one of the individuals getting hurt in the case of Rihanna and Chris Brown were Rihanna was hurt and Chris Brown was never the same. All I have to say is becareful who you declare love to, just make sure you love that person with good intentions.
First and foremost I agree that now-a-days love is more of a market thing than a sentimental thing. Often it is as the post states what's in it for me? Since there is a monetary part attached to the relationship. More so, why is it that people give material things to each other every month to commemorate that they are together? Why not just some time together, why is it such a celebration that they made it another month together? Yes I do agree that we must celebrate every day of our lives as if it were the last one, but by doing this of giving each other material things each “month-aversary” is just giving in to the commercial part of what is now supposedly love. Also as it is often the case people “fall in love” for the person they feel sexually attached too. More often than not I have heard that someone somewhat liked a person and the sexual desire was very present and it was after confirming that the sexual relations between the couple were “good” then was that supposedly love came. I am not saying that love doesn’t exist but I am saying it is very egoist and now extremely commercial. Even more so is as it states the question of this post, a matter of ownership. What is that of that is my man, or my woman, or she/he is mine, back off. Since when do we belong to someone else? Since when does being in love mean stopping being a free individual and become owned by others? We all fall for the commercialized form of love and think of it as our own.
It is also true that love not only exists between couples but also friends and family. Is this love as egoist and commercial as the one we supposedly feel for our significant other? Personally, there is something pure about family and friend love, but that is just me. A true unconditional love. Others may argue that this is not the case but in friendship you always look for the how is this person convenient for me? Honestly, I do not think that way and I don’t need a set date each month to show my friends or family I love them.
“Love, it is real, not just in poetry and stories, it is truth, and it will follow you” sings Conor Oberst in one of his songs.
Love, throughout the years I have learned, is the only way that I can be happy. I currently have a 4.0 gpa, I graduated top 1% from my high school, and I scored an 800 on my SAT subject test; do any of those things make me happy? Not really. What makes me happy is my interactions with other people, the connections I make, and the love that I feel for others and for things I like doing. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy being owner of those “statistics,” but it is not what makes me happy; having good grades is only a pathway to happiness in the sense that it will allow me to go to a good university and use the knowledge and experiences to help others. Love for something or someone is the only way to happiness.
Love is something complicated that has developed either as means of a survival strategy or is simply the side effect of complex brain processes. This “genetic love” is the attachment that we feel towards other people or things. On the other hand, the romantic love between two people or between a husband and a wife is human-made; it is simply a concept that has developed as part of our society and culture rather than a direct result of evolution or brain functions (teenagers a specially inclined to feel this kind of love).
To be sincere, the world would be a much better place if people would realize the beauty and power of love. The attachment, the care, and the consideration, which are side effects of love, would prevent wars, drive movements, and better our society and global community.
Alberto J. Ruiz
“All we need is love… love… love; love is all we need…” sang the Beatles in 1967. However, what it is love? Most of the songs are about love. That is for not saying all, and most of them talk about sacrifice; sometimes they even mention the phrase, “I gave you everything.” What is everything? I believe this everything is something emotional, for someone else it might be something physical, or economical. I always remember when Valentine’s Day approaches, or holidays are near. The typical commercial of the girl looking at the enormous ring, or the big diamonds commercials are all over the TV. It is really sad how we are trying to buy and sell love as if we were wholesalers. We think that the more we give the more we will receive, but love is much more complicated than giving expensive gives and in order to receive sex. When we follow this trend, we are falling into a deep hole. Nevertheless, I am not saying that buying rings or diamonds is bad, in fact is good, it might rip your pocket. It is nice to give something nice to the person we love; however, is it necessary? I do not believe that gifts are necessary condition for love. People tend to seek for love, but I remember the song “Chao Lola” from one of my favorite Ecuadorian soloist, Juan Fernando Velazco, he says “el amor no es algo que se busca en otro.” (Love is nothing that you find in someone else). Love most be found within ourselves. First we love ourselves, so that love can be reflected by others.
Everyone has heard the saying that love is more than just a four letter word. By definition, the word love is defined as “a profoundly tender, strong positive emotion of regard, passionate affection and a warm personal attachment to another person”. Affection, devotion, passion, desire, warmth, respect and loyalty are all ways to define love. In today's culture no one really knows the real meaning of love. Unconditional love. Most people use "love" as a placebo to attract our attention to anything, whether material or more intangible goods.Due to this, love leads to manipulation, hatred, abuse, and even makes us go crazy.
Love has been expressed since the beginning of time; since Adam and Eve. Love is a broad emotion that can be powerful and demanding, but also rewarding and pleasurable. For some people, love is complete devotion and endless adoration. For others, it is a temporary feeling that will disappear in time. For some people, it is a fairy-tale; while for others it is a dream come true. However, love is not a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. So many legends surround this emotion, originating from the goddess Athena and Helen of Troy to Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet. Love is not an emotion to be abused or a word to be said without true meaning.
For everyone in Western society we are fed this notion that love is about passion, sharing, caring and happiness with stars and hearts around it. Love doesn't last forever in terms of romance (which is marketed to us). What happens to these passionate emotions after the honeymoon stage is over? what happens to all the material objects we receive in the name of love? Do we play his game of romance to to fulfill something biological?
Emotional and physical attachment throughout our development in a way feeds our desire to seek "love". There's an obvious insecurity. There is an aspect a person feels is missing and it needs to be fulfilled. Take abusive relationships. Chris Brown was abused as a child, he was nurtured in that environment and when he gets angry, he loses control. Another example, there's was an E! True Hollywood Story about Rapper's Wives and Liza Rios (the widow of Big Punisher) told her story about abuse. She claimed that Big Punisher, because he had no control over anything close to him in his life- he needed something to control. Although she stuck with him and showed tolerance for his actions, he showed very little respect towards her. People who are in possessive and abusive relationships seem to be caught in the trap of this eros + ludos style of love. They're fulfilling one's desire for control.
No wonder why the number one advice is to "love yourself before loving others".
There's so much more to the subject of love. There's many questions and many answers. I've always felt that love should be one of mutual respect, trust and plenty of laughs and hugs. That's just one perspective out of many.
Love is such a strong overrated word because love can sometimes is said but not meant. However I believe the saying that says you don't how much you love someone until you lose them. I'm saying this from experience, I thought I had feelings for this girl but I didn't think I loved her until we broke up our sophmore year in high school and been dating for two years prior to that. Love can be and is a magnificent feeling when the feeling is shared both ways, I never found out if she loved me cause we never spoke since we broke up. Love acts in mysterious ways it can either lead to a healthy relationship where the two individuals share the feeling or it can lead to jealously in some cases and could lead to one of the individuals getting hurt in the case of Rihanna and Chris Brown were Rihanna got hurtand Chris Brown was never the same person. All I have to say is becareful who you declare love to, just make sure you love that person with good intentions
Love is a decision that has to be made; it is not something we feel all of a sudden. We have to decide to put the other person first before yourself. Society likes to classify love as an emotion where we can just say “I love you” to just about anybody but do we really mean it. Love is sometimes used as one big marketing strategy to sell diamonds, flowers and chocolate. It’s not something we can put in a box and manipulate it to fulfill our needs. Even thought it may seem like we can, the true intentions always arise and could destroy what you were working towards.
Sorry professor I submitted this blog under the name of Nicholas cause I was at work and forgot my username and password sorry everybody and professor that was me too in the anominous if you read the two blogs
Love is perceived in many different ways, all depending on the "prescription" of your glasses.
As children we are taught gender roles and what our place in society is depending on our sex. Young girls are meant to grow up to be ladies and homemakers, while the young boys are taught that they are the providers and head of the household. In many fairy tales there is always a beautiful young woman in distress waiting on her "true love" to come to her rescue and whisk her away to a faraway land so they can live happily ever. These images that are implanted in our young vulnerable minds are what set the benchmark in what we perceive as love and as we grow our perception of "love" is obscured and turned into a taboo. Suddenly, three simple words become so twisted that we are afraid to say them or even to believe such a thing exist. We live and breath love yet we refuse to admit we love or have once loved. I believe love is like water, it comes packaged in different shapes and sizes and just like water, it is essential for life. Without love or even passion, which I hold to be one and the same, we cannot exist. We experience love in every moment of life even in the most smallest of things. Love comes in varies disguises and many times we don't recognize it. We feel love in different intensities, from the way we love our moms, dads, and grandmas to the way we love the sound of hot water pouring from a tea kettle. Love is an appreciation and recognition of somethings intrinsic value to you. It might not always be the most intense fairy tale love we are brainwashed with but nonetheless it still lingers theres.
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The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes. from pleasure to intense attraction. This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love difficult to define, even compare to other emotional states. To me, Love does not involve the emotions of anger, jealousy, and lust. It is way more patient and understanding about one's needs. It does not hate nor strike down at each other. It trusts and confides in others. It finds comfort in the heart of the beholder.It is really a never ending concept that gives all it has.-Nadya D.
Honestly I have no idea what love is. I guess I agree with some of the theories in the blog. In my opinion love is something psychological hedonism individuals use to be happy. In the sense they need it so they use all in their power to get it for their own personal happiness. Love kind of selfish if you ask me. Being in love with someone for your own personal satisfaction is not right. Maybe we love for the wrong reasons, or maybe like me we really don’t know what it is. Whatever the reason is people shouldn’t suffer, or die because of this feeling called love.
Reynel Hernandez
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