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Monday, September 20, 2010
TR, 11:15am
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Krisztian Nagy
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What is love?
Love is divine. Love is the source of all happiness, and that only way to achieve this happiness is by sharing it 100 percent without any regard to your own need. Then you will experience the fulfillment of loving relationship – fulfillment so richly satisfying that you can’t even imagine it. Love never appears at the beginning of relationship. Love is a reward at the end of journey. It has to be earned. Discovered. Worked for. This happens through a gradual process of true sharing. Love is powerful narcotic. It’s easy to get hooked, and it’s difficult to get clear of it. However, when two people realize what is love about, they can focus on helping each other grow, eliminating they own needy traits and focusing on the ultimate purpose of love.
Love is a beautiful thing. You share so much and show so much affection towards your spouse. True is defined when that special someone is there for you through thick and thin. When you don't have it they are there to provide you with all of your needs. In a relationship you start of with telling each other (I love you) when you don't really know what love means but one you start to spend more time with each other and you start to see that its not about me anymore its us. Everything is us not I.Tthat's when you know your in love.
What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind. Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love cannot be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it cannot be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe.
Love is the ultimate act of selfishness. The only reason why we love is to feel like we are loved right back. It gives us a sense of hope; hopefully the person I love thinks I’m beautiful and everything that’s good. Love is one of the most overused and misused words in human language. Everyone uses it, but no one knows what it means. We fall in love because we don’t want to be lonely; we fall in love because of money, lust, adoration, desire, ideals etc. Humans are creatures of obsession; we are obsessed with the thought of having a companion, never being alone and always feeling loved. At the end of the day we have to ask ourselves if we want to be alone for the rest of our life.
Many people think that love comes directly from God. They think that it is the most amazing things on earth. They also think that it takes different forms: compassionate or passionate, sweet or bitter even violent. Whether it is passionnate or compassionate, I think there is a strong connection between love and hate. For example, "I love my father because he is my father and I hate him because I refuse to look like him and even sound like him" (Triff). If love exists, there is reason to believe that hate will appear automatically. That is, Love is a necessary condition for hate, and hate is a sufficient condition for love. Another example, I love my girlfriend because she makes me happy and overjoyed, but I hate her too. I hate her beacause I dont want to be hurt. I hate her because I am not feeling totally safe with her. From a philosophical prospective I can conclude that love is strongly linked to hate. That reason can explain the discomfort in most relationships, especially the passionate ones.
I believe that one of the huge problems with love is that it is overused all the time. Love is a form of social domestication, many people think that they need to be married to achieve social status and acceptance, reproduce, and have someone to get old with. Love is something that is imposed on us since we are kids with such thing as valentines day, dolls with wedding dresses, and so on. That is the situation most of the time since we see in our society that half of marriages end in divorce. But I also believe in true love and some people the lucky few do find it. That love you find with a certain person and it is a mutual respect and care you have for one another, I know it sounds corny but you are truly best friends share everything with each other, love every minute spent together, you have nothing but a great deal of trust in the other person and understanding, and of course great compassion and intimacy. In the beginning you just feel a connection and you know this is someone you like being with as time goes on and you get closer and you both realize you will do anything for each other and you can’t imagine not being a part of each others lives. When you respect each other and learn that love is not a one way street and not selfish or jealous and their happiness is more important then yours maybe you have found love. I’m not a love expert but this is just what I believe it’s a hard thing to try and explain but there is true love out there and of course people that may be together and believe they are in love but they’re really not.
If their is love, it's not nearly as perfect as society might make it seem. Too often does one hear bells and fireworks, or you will be complete once you've found it. People seem to overlook, the strong connection between hate and love, and how hate drives our appreciation "love" in the first place. But like most things in life, love isn't 100% and the main reason why we put so much effort into it, is to get something out of it. But no one can deny the hope that it gives to mankind or the fact that you can live without, but life seems much easier when its present.
If we would to search the word "love" in the dictionary we would encounter many explanations for this phenomenon. Love can be the innocent and pure attachment an infant feels for its mother. On the other hand, it could be epitomized by the romantic idea of love that is praised in the Western culture. Eventually the word love could be defined in its simplest form as the bond that holds two people together. Originally the term love was closely related with the idea of an unconditional, selfless, and pure love, known as "agape." The term received its meaning from the absolute love and affection one should have to God. In today's world the word "love" has been corrupted with all the attributes that a "passionate love" brings with. Passion, Sexuality, Jealousy, Hatred, and last but not least Consumption, physically as well as emotionally, are all characteristics that resemble the romantic idea of love, also known as "eros" that has been so highly commercialized by the Western culture. The United States is the prototype that introduced the "love market." Its economy is highly dependent on the money that comes in from Weddings, the various holidays on which love is celebrated, such as Valentines day and Christmas, as well as the millions of dollars that are linked with establishing the security of a family, like buying a house. In that case one could say that we are the victims that are manipulated by the media to believe in a romantic idea of love, for the sake of maintaining the economy of this nation stable, or at least to seek economical improvement. Could love just be an illusion invented by mankind to absorb the money of all those poor ones that believe in it? In one of my former classes I learned that there are certain components that can make up to 8 different combinations or varieties of love. This principle is known as triangular theory of love, introduced by Psychologist Robert Sternberg. First we have the Intimacy, which encompasses feelings of being close to or affected by a person. Then there is the passion component that compromises the drive for romance, and physical (sexual) contact. The last aspect of love is the decision/commitment component, which illustrates the initial cognition that one loves another person and the longer-term determination to maintain that love. The lowest stage of love is obviously its opposite, "Nonlove," which lacks all three of these attributes. Liking is the kind of love we feel for our friends and family members. A love purely based on passion, "Infatuated love," is often not more than a "fling." An arranged marriage or one that is only maintained for the sake of the children is called "Empty love" and is only based on the commitment component. This form of love is often seen in Asian cultures (Orient). Romantic love and Companionate love are quite the opposite from each other. While the first includes intimacy and passion, companionate love lacks sexual attraction but therefore contains intimacy and the decision/commitment component. An emblem of this love could be a couple in their late adulthood, which has been together for over 30 years and enjoys financial security, for which the passion (sexual) component has lost its importance in the relationship. A fatuous love is one in which the partners take rushed decision, such as moving in together after only knowing each other for a few weeks. Ultimately, the presence of the three formerly introduced components can build our ideal form of love, the consummate love, which represents a loving and respecting, sexually-vibrant, long-term relationship.
Find someone, start dating, get in a relationship, move in, propose, plan all the wedding details, get married, honeymoon, new house, kids and live a happily ever after "life". That's the pre-ordeained package society tells us we have to go through if we are in love. Most people think they are in love but the aren't. They think they are in love because that's how society has wired them. People now days don't now know the differenciate between love and lust. Their libido has jacked them up so bad, that they can't make up the right decisions. People need to start thinking for themselves. Is this the right person for me? Why do I really LOVE this person? because in the end, love is happiness.
Love is patient, love is kind. Love can occur between two individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unknown way of trust. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Some also may believe love is broken down into three parts; Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. I believe love is just something two people have within themselves, Its something only the two individuals can feel but that others can see when they see them together. When you see a couple going out for lets say just a month or two, and they're already telling one another they love each other. I don't think they really know what those words mean. Love should be experienced and not just felt.
Love is needed when none is received, yet having too much would make one gasp for a breath of freedom. It is a complex topic with endless ways to describe. It has the ability to unite opposite ends, or make them break apart, make jealousy turn into hate. One can easily fall in love at first site, but with time it may have all been a mistake. Love can heal all wounds, or scar you for life. There is a scientific way to describe love, but science is not able to answer all of the more complex questions. Love is undefinable.
After reading this post, it seems that love is a mere tool used to manipulate others. Love can seem like a beautiful thing but at the same time, it can consume your personal dreams, personality, and interfere with your journey in life. Love is selfish it gives you the power to control another and gives you the feeling of ownership of another human being. People always ask why did she/he let an abusive relationship continue and the most common answer is because I loved her/ him. There is a reason for this, love is how you can enter someone’s life and slowly feel entitled to own it. Of course it’s not only this it’s also many other things like moments of happiness, passion, and friendship. However, I’m not sure we are meant to be in love for ever. Like all things, everything ends. In the beginning it’s the thrill of the unknown and after you already feel security=ownership then you stay if you become compatible great friends, if not then you’re on to your next conquer.
Everyone has a different perspective of love and may express themselves in many different ways. Love can be considered of joy and the contentment a relationship may have. For example, you wouldn’t expect your love partner to have empathy towards you. One may feel confused with the different levels of love. Even though love can be blind the attachment can be worthwhile. Happiness in love have a big impact with one another, happiness won’t occur if the love and care from that person isn’t as eonderful. Nowadays many teens tend to feel passionate love and they don’t experience the true meaning of happiness and true love. So what is true love after all? Some may see love like a fantacy or dream.
I believe that we need to specify what kind of love we have to talk about here because love is just to vast to describe in a few blog posts. Many have written books and articles on the matter and it is just too broad to cover. Most of the points that were covered I believe are correct. Mania is mostly the one people use to manipulate others and in some occasions to control others to an aggressive extent. I do disagree with the theory that love is learned as a form of social domestication because if that was the case, I would have never fallen in love if it depended on my mother and father. Yes, I have some in common characteristics with my parents but the way I love my husband is completely different from the way my parents loved each other. I do agree with Paul's view in love as it is a whole idea and it is the most "sane" love idea I have come to learn. In Paul's view, if we do not try to learn how to love without the manipulation of the flesh, our loves would become a mania type of love. And the fact that he concentrated so much in self-control is because he believe we were born in sin and our flesh tends to lean on wordly or sinful desires such as, premarital sex and other types of issues that he talks about in his letters calling them sexual immorality. And as Christians, we like him should set the example of self-control. All in all, I agree with most of the ideas except the idea that love is form of social domestication, some sort of learned behavior.
Based on my personal experiences with "Love", I believe that love comes in many forms. People can learn to love, grow to love and immediately fall in love. People can love anyone or thing they choose. In some cases people can love more than one persons at a time. So what is the true value of love? What exactly is love. To my understanding love is whatever you want it to be. No one or thing can tell you who and how to love. It is within in our own hearts we truely find our own qualities of love. What we value and consider as "Love." Wether or not love truely exists, the idea and feeling of love is the greatest feeling in the universe. The best love is the love we never exspect, and before we can begin to love others and recieve it, we must first love ourselves.
The way we love, I believe, is both shown to us when we grow up through family, friends, and media. I would think that the majority of how we love is due to manipulation from the system. Many of the movies and music we have now about relationships and love definitely alter our perception of one another.
Negotiating between desire and respect may be tough for many people. In my mind, respect should always come first before desire as it is most important not to be selfish. It is absolutely possible to both love and respect one another at the same time. Through communication and understanding of each others thoughts, love and respect can maintain a balance.
Love is like wavelengths, and wavelengths are naught without something to perceive them. The same way that sound cannot transpire without an ear to perceive sound waves, love cannot exist without an organism that possesses the ability to feel and characterize its vast assortment of wavelengths.
Everyone I believe sees love in a different perspective. Some people use love as a way to, as said to manipulate or trick people. A lot of people in this society use “I love you” as a way to get out of something or to get something from someone without really meaning it, like sex or money. Some see love as lust. Having sexual desires for each other. But I believe that, that is not real love. Real love is when your partner is always there for you. When you can be completely happy and trusting of each other. Even though love can make you happy I do believe it is also possible that love is an attachment. You can be with someone and think you love them but really you just have an attachment and want them to always be there. There are many different arguments for love, but we each have a different perspective. - Cinderella Santos
Sure, society produces and manipulates a prepackaged ideal of different actions, different aesthetic values: society sets ideals for everything. Responding to John Lee's primary forms of love, which can combine, to produce different outcomes of secondary forms, is love, then not an action, which is shaped by the initial attraction, or decision to love a thing, or a person? Therefore, should we not first be recognizing that the type of love (primary or secondary) which is produced is influenced greatly by specific conditions and situations. Still, the way in which we love, ultimately, CAN be a choice. Philia, or brotherly love, which is love based off of mutuality and shared interests, seems to fall towards the side of societies influence: ownership, self-interest. But can it, and does it not, if a healthy, growing brotherly love, turn into a love made by choice? In my eyes, this, and only this, then can even be considered real love: that which is selfless or more appropriately growing towards selflessness,Agape love, which John Lee deemed secondary. Yes, much of his ideas about primary love are standard and seem to have greatest influence from the ideals of society. But as relationships grow, does love not turn into a decision rather than just an irrational, self-seeking, standard of society?
The need for love is one of the basic human needs which go right after physiological and safety needs (in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs). It might even overcome the physiological needs. The necessity of having a feeling of attachment and belonging to other people makes us dependent and addicted to love, brings to the ‘top” and ruins the lives. There is no measure of love in all its varieties of forms and types. It’s always different and affects people in all different ways. The share of love between two is never the same and never equal. One cannot feel exactly the same way like the other one though they share the same feeling. Somebody loves more, somebody – less; one loves, the other one lets to be loved. The love of a parent for a kid is never the same as a feeling of the kid to the parent though it is happening between the same people. We start to learn how to love and to be loved since the time we are born, we receive love or lack it, we build our own form from the previous experience and personal perception. Those who lack it, most likely, tend to be less open in love, those who are loved a lot tend to be more selfish and so on. People use love and get used by it. Because it’s never the same for two, because it has so many forms and affects not just your life but also other people. Whether you love them or not, whether they love you or not. But whether it makes us happy or hurts us, it’s definitely worth it.
To each individual love can mean different things, because of that we are misguided. In some cultures you grow to love the person that your family has chosen and felt that would benefit towards each other. Now in the society that we live in love is vague and unexplainable. Children at a young age are not being well informed about the true meaning of loving another individual. I do believe that the true meaning of love may lie within the Bible; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always and preserves." When one finds this in another individual then one can say that love is found. Times have changed and love in my point of view is not as easily set up as it was decades ago. Young adults have found that “hooking up” is much easier then establishing a full relationship with another person, for the reason that building a relationship consists of many factors and emotions/attachment is involved. As a young adult myself, I see the different situations some people are putting themselves through and yet they still see nothing wrong with their picture. I’ve realized that most settled because they have become accustomed to that other person instead of actually feeling that there is true connection with each other, in hopes of one day truly loving them.
To each individual love can mean different things, because of that we are misguided. In some cultures you grow to love the person that your family has chosen and felt that would benefit towards each other. Now in the society that we live in love is vague and unexplainable. Children at a young age are not being well informed about the true meaning of loving another individual. I do believe that the true meaning of love may lie within the Bible; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always and preserves." When one finds this in another individual then one can say that love is found. Times have changed and love in my point of view is not as easily set up as it was decades ago. Young adults have found that “hooking up” is much easier then establishing a full relationship with another person, for the reason that building a relationship consists of many factors and emotions/attachment is involved. As a young adult myself, I see the different situations some people are putting themselves through and yet they still see nothing wrong with their picture. I’ve realized that most settled because they have become accustomed to that other person instead of actually feeling that there is true connection with each other, in hopes of one day truly loving them.
26 comments:
What is love?
Love is divine. Love is the source of all happiness, and that only way to achieve this happiness is by sharing it 100 percent without any regard to your own need. Then you will experience the fulfillment of loving relationship – fulfillment so richly satisfying that you can’t even imagine it. Love never appears at the beginning of relationship. Love is a reward at the end of journey. It has to be earned. Discovered. Worked for. This happens through a gradual process of true sharing. Love is powerful narcotic. It’s easy to get hooked, and it’s difficult to get clear of it. However, when two people realize what is love about, they can focus on helping each other grow, eliminating they own needy traits and focusing on the ultimate purpose of love.
Love is a beautiful thing. You share so much and show so much affection towards your spouse. True is defined when that special someone is there for you through thick and thin. When you don't have it they are there to provide you with all of your needs. In a relationship you start of with telling each other (I love you) when you don't really know what love means but one you start to spend more time with each other and you start to see that its not about me anymore its us. Everything is us not I.Tthat's when you know your in love.
What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind. Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love cannot be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it cannot be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe.
What is “Love”?
Love is the ultimate act of selfishness. The only reason why we love is to feel like we are loved right back. It gives us a sense of hope; hopefully the person I love thinks I’m beautiful and everything that’s good. Love is one of the most overused and misused words in human language. Everyone uses it, but no one knows what it means. We fall in love because we don’t want to be lonely; we fall in love because of money, lust, adoration, desire, ideals etc. Humans are creatures of obsession; we are obsessed with the thought of having a companion, never being alone and always feeling loved. At the end of the day we have to ask ourselves if we want to be alone for the rest of our life.
-Melida Ortega-
Many people think that love comes directly from God. They think that it is the most amazing things on earth. They also think that it takes different forms: compassionate or passionate, sweet or bitter even violent. Whether it is passionnate or compassionate, I think there is a strong connection between love and hate. For example, "I love my father because he is my father and I hate him because I refuse to look like him and even sound like him" (Triff). If love exists, there is reason to believe that hate will appear automatically. That is, Love is a necessary condition for hate, and hate is a sufficient condition for love. Another example, I love my girlfriend because she makes me happy and overjoyed, but I hate her too. I hate her beacause I dont want to be hurt. I hate her because I am not feeling totally safe with her. From a philosophical prospective I can conclude that love is strongly linked to hate. That reason can explain the discomfort in most relationships, especially the passionate ones.
NEGOT JEAN LOUIS
What is love?
I believe that one of the huge problems with love is that it is overused all the time. Love is a form of social domestication, many people think that they need to be married to achieve social status and acceptance, reproduce, and have someone to get old with. Love is something that is imposed on us since we are kids with such thing as valentines day, dolls with wedding dresses, and so on. That is the situation most of the time since we see in our society that half of marriages end in divorce. But I also believe in true love and some people the lucky few do find it. That love you find with a certain person and it is a mutual respect and care you have for one another, I know it sounds corny but you are truly best friends share everything with each other, love every minute spent together, you have nothing but a great deal of trust in the other person and understanding, and of course great compassion and intimacy. In the beginning you just feel a connection and you know this is someone you like being with as time goes on and you get closer and you both realize you will do anything for each other and you can’t imagine not being a part of each others lives. When you respect each other and learn that love is not a one way street and not selfish or jealous and their happiness is more important then yours maybe you have found love. I’m not a love expert but this is just what I believe it’s a hard thing to try and explain but there is true love out there and of course people that may be together and believe they are in love but they’re really not.
If their is love, it's not nearly as perfect as society might make it seem. Too often does one hear bells and fireworks, or you will be complete once you've found it. People seem to overlook, the strong connection between hate and love, and how hate drives our appreciation "love" in the first place. But like most things in life, love isn't 100% and the main reason why we put so much effort into it, is to get something out of it. But no one can deny the hope that it gives to mankind or the fact that you can live without, but life seems much easier when its present.
The Emblem of Love
If we would to search the word "love" in the dictionary we would encounter many explanations for this phenomenon. Love can be the innocent and pure attachment an infant feels for its mother. On the other hand, it could be epitomized by the romantic idea of love that is praised in the Western culture. Eventually the word love could be defined in its simplest form as the bond that holds two people together. Originally the term love was closely related with the idea of an unconditional, selfless, and pure love, known as "agape." The term received its meaning from the absolute love and affection one should have to God. In today's world the word "love" has been corrupted with all the attributes that a "passionate love" brings with. Passion, Sexuality, Jealousy, Hatred, and last but not least Consumption, physically as well as emotionally, are all characteristics that resemble the romantic idea of love, also known as "eros" that has been so highly commercialized by the Western culture. The United States is the prototype that introduced the "love market." Its economy is highly dependent on the money that comes in from Weddings, the various holidays on which love is celebrated, such as Valentines day and Christmas, as well as the millions of dollars that are linked with establishing the security of a family, like buying a house. In that case one could say that we are the victims that are manipulated by the media to believe in a romantic idea of love, for the sake of maintaining the economy of this nation stable, or at least to seek economical improvement. Could love just be an illusion invented by mankind to absorb the money of all those poor ones that believe in it? In one of my former classes I learned that there are certain components that can make up to 8 different combinations or varieties of love. This principle is known as triangular theory of love, introduced by Psychologist Robert Sternberg. First we have the Intimacy, which encompasses feelings of being close to or affected by a person. Then there is the passion component that compromises the drive for romance, and physical (sexual) contact. The last aspect of love is the decision/commitment component, which illustrates the initial cognition that one loves another person and the longer-term determination to maintain that love. The lowest stage of love is obviously its opposite, "Nonlove," which lacks all three of these attributes. Liking is the kind of love we feel for our friends and family members. A love purely based on passion, "Infatuated love," is often not more than a "fling." An arranged marriage or one that is only maintained for the sake of the children is called "Empty love" and is only based on the commitment component. This form of love is often seen in Asian cultures (Orient). Romantic love and Companionate love are quite the opposite from each other. While the first includes intimacy and passion, companionate love lacks sexual attraction but therefore contains intimacy and the decision/commitment component. An emblem of this love could be a couple in their late adulthood, which has been together for over 30 years and enjoys financial security, for which the passion (sexual) component has lost its importance in the relationship. A fatuous love is one in which the partners take rushed decision, such as moving in together after only knowing each other for a few weeks.
Ultimately, the presence of the three formerly introduced components can build our ideal form of love, the consummate love, which represents a loving and respecting, sexually-vibrant, long-term relationship.
- Lester Alvarez -
Love, a word or a symbol?
Find someone, start dating, get in a relationship, move in, propose, plan all the wedding details, get married, honeymoon, new house, kids and live a happily ever after "life". That's the pre-ordeained package society tells us we have to go through if we are in love. Most people think they are in love but the aren't. They think they are in love because that's how society has wired them.
People now days don't now know the differenciate between love and lust. Their libido has jacked them up so bad, that they can't make up the right decisions. People need to start thinking for themselves. Is this the right person for me? Why do I really LOVE this person? because in the end, love is happiness.
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Love is patient, love is kind. Love can occur between two individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unknown way of trust. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Some also may believe love is broken down into three parts; Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. I believe love is just something two people have within themselves, Its something only the two individuals can feel but that others can see when they see them together. When you see a couple going out for lets say just a month or two, and they're already telling one another they love each other. I don't think they really know what those words mean. Love should be experienced and not just felt.
Love is needed when none is received, yet having too much would make one gasp for a breath of freedom. It is a complex topic with endless ways to describe. It has the ability to unite opposite ends, or make them break apart, make jealousy turn into hate. One can easily fall in love at first site, but with time it may have all been a mistake. Love can heal all wounds, or scar you for life. There is a scientific way to describe love, but science is not able to answer all of the more complex questions. Love is undefinable.
After reading this post, it seems that love is a mere tool used to manipulate others. Love can seem like a beautiful thing but at the same time, it can consume your personal dreams, personality, and interfere with your journey in life. Love is selfish it gives you the power to control another and gives you the feeling of ownership of another human being. People always ask why did she/he let an abusive relationship continue and the most common answer is because I loved her/ him. There is a reason for this, love is how you can enter someone’s life and slowly feel entitled to own it. Of course it’s not only this it’s also many other things like moments of happiness, passion, and friendship. However, I’m not sure we are meant to be in love for ever. Like all things, everything ends. In the beginning it’s the thrill of the unknown and after you already feel security=ownership then you stay if you become compatible great friends, if not then you’re on to your next conquer.
Everyone has a different perspective of love and may express themselves in many different ways. Love can be considered of joy and the contentment a relationship may have. For example, you wouldn’t expect your love partner to have empathy towards you. One may feel confused with the different levels of love. Even though love can be blind the attachment can be worthwhile. Happiness in love have a big impact with one another, happiness won’t occur if the love and care from that person isn’t as eonderful. Nowadays many teens tend to feel passionate love and they don’t experience the true meaning of happiness and true love. So what is true love after all? Some may see love like a fantacy or dream.
-Cristine Lopez-
I believe that we need to specify what kind of love we have to talk about here because love is just to vast to describe in a few blog posts. Many have written books and articles on the matter and it is just too broad to cover. Most of the points that were covered I believe are correct. Mania is mostly the one people use to manipulate others and in some occasions to control others to an aggressive extent. I do disagree with the theory that love is learned as a form of social domestication because if that was the case, I would have never fallen in love if it depended on my mother and father. Yes, I have some in common characteristics with my parents but the way I love my husband is completely different from the way my parents loved each other. I do agree with Paul's view in love as it is a whole idea and it is the most "sane" love idea I have come to learn. In Paul's view, if we do not try to learn how to love without the manipulation of the flesh, our loves would become a mania type of love. And the fact that he concentrated so much in self-control is because he believe we were born in sin and our flesh tends to lean on wordly or sinful desires such as, premarital sex and other types of issues that he talks about in his letters calling them sexual immorality. And as Christians, we like him should set the example of self-control. All in all, I agree with most of the ideas except the idea that love is form of social domestication, some sort of learned behavior.
Based on my personal experiences with "Love", I believe that love comes in many forms. People can learn to love, grow to love and immediately fall in love. People can love anyone or thing they choose. In some cases people can love more than one persons at a time. So what is the true value of love? What exactly is love. To my understanding love is whatever you want it to be. No one or thing can tell you who and how to love. It is within in our own hearts we truely find our own qualities of love. What we value and consider as "Love." Wether or not love truely exists, the idea and feeling of love is the greatest feeling in the universe. The best love is the love we never exspect, and before we can begin to love others and recieve it, we must first love ourselves.
The way we love, I believe, is both shown to us when we grow up through family, friends, and media. I would think that the majority of how we love is due to manipulation from the system. Many of the movies and music we have now about relationships and love definitely alter our perception of one another.
Negotiating between desire and respect may be tough for many people. In my mind, respect should always come first before desire as it is most important not to be selfish. It is absolutely possible to both love and respect one another at the same time. Through communication and understanding of each others thoughts, love and respect can maintain a balance.
-Grant Kunkel
Love is like wavelengths, and wavelengths are naught without something to perceive them. The same way that sound cannot transpire without an ear to perceive sound waves, love cannot exist without an organism that possesses the ability to feel and characterize its vast assortment of wavelengths.
Everyone I believe sees love in a different perspective. Some people use love as a way to, as said to manipulate or trick people. A lot of people in this society use “I love you” as a way to get out of something or to get something from someone without really meaning it, like sex or money. Some see love as lust. Having sexual desires for each other. But I believe that, that is not real love. Real love is when your partner is always there for you. When you can be completely happy and trusting of each other. Even though love can make you happy I do believe it is also possible that love is an attachment. You can be with someone and think you love them but really you just have an attachment and want them to always be there. There are many different arguments for love, but we each have a different perspective.
- Cinderella Santos
Sure, society produces and manipulates a prepackaged ideal of different actions, different aesthetic values: society sets ideals for everything. Responding to John Lee's primary forms of love, which can combine, to produce different outcomes of secondary forms, is love, then not an action, which is shaped by the initial attraction, or decision to love a thing, or a person? Therefore, should we not first be recognizing that the type of love (primary or secondary) which is produced is influenced greatly by specific conditions and situations. Still, the way in which we love, ultimately, CAN be a choice. Philia, or brotherly love, which is love based off of mutuality and shared interests, seems to fall towards the side of societies influence: ownership, self-interest. But can it, and does it not, if a healthy, growing brotherly love, turn into a love made by choice? In my eyes, this, and only this, then can even be considered real love: that which is selfless or more appropriately growing towards selflessness,Agape love, which John Lee deemed secondary. Yes, much of his ideas about primary love are standard and seem to have greatest influence from the ideals of society. But as relationships grow, does love not turn into a decision rather than just an irrational, self-seeking, standard of society?
The need for love is one of the basic human needs which go right after physiological and safety needs (in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs). It might even overcome the physiological needs. The necessity of having a feeling of attachment and belonging to other people makes us dependent and addicted to love, brings to the ‘top” and ruins the lives. There is no measure of love in all its varieties of forms and types. It’s always different and affects people in all different ways. The share of love between two is never the same and never equal. One cannot feel exactly the same way like the other one though they share the same feeling. Somebody loves more, somebody – less; one loves, the other one lets to be loved. The love of a parent for a kid is never the same as a feeling of the kid to the parent though it is happening between the same people. We start to learn how to love and to be loved since the time we are born, we receive love or lack it, we build our own form from the previous experience and personal perception. Those who lack it, most likely, tend to be less open in love, those who are loved a lot tend to be more selfish and so on. People use love and get used by it. Because it’s never the same for two, because it has so many forms and affects not just your life but also other people. Whether you love them or not, whether they love you or not. But whether it makes us happy or hurts us, it’s definitely worth it.
To each individual love can mean different things, because of that we are misguided. In some cultures you grow to love the person that your family has chosen and felt that would benefit towards each other. Now in the society that we live in love is vague and unexplainable. Children at a young age are not being well informed about the true meaning of loving another individual. I do believe that the true meaning of love may lie within the Bible; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always and preserves." When one finds this in another individual then one can say that love is found. Times have changed and love in my point of view is not as easily set up as it was decades ago. Young adults have found that “hooking up” is much easier then establishing a full relationship with another person, for the reason that building a relationship consists of many factors and emotions/attachment is involved. As a young adult myself, I see the different situations some people are putting themselves through and yet they still see nothing wrong with their picture. I’ve realized that most settled because they have become accustomed to that other person instead of actually feeling that there is true connection with each other, in hopes of one day truly loving them.
To each individual love can mean different things, because of that we are misguided. In some cultures you grow to love the person that your family has chosen and felt that would benefit towards each other. Now in the society that we live in love is vague and unexplainable. Children at a young age are not being well informed about the true meaning of loving another individual. I do believe that the true meaning of love may lie within the Bible; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always and preserves." When one finds this in another individual then one can say that love is found. Times have changed and love in my point of view is not as easily set up as it was decades ago. Young adults have found that “hooking up” is much easier then establishing a full relationship with another person, for the reason that building a relationship consists of many factors and emotions/attachment is involved. As a young adult myself, I see the different situations some people are putting themselves through and yet they still see nothing wrong with their picture. I’ve realized that most settled because they have become accustomed to that other person instead of actually feeling that there is true connection with each other, in hopes of one day truly loving them.
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